Never Married and Being Well Adjusted

You have seen those studies that say married people are healthier than single people. Well, according to a new study shows those who have never married and over 40 are actually well adjusted. I know at times it may not seem like that when you are wanting a spouse. But, you are able to create a life that helps you to be well adjusted as you work through your emotions. Never married may be social stigma in some people's eyes. Especially when you go first dates with men. I always get the question, "Why haven't you married or had children?" My answer is that I didn't have the opportunity to. I don't think it was a satisfactory answer because they responded "if I were a divorced woman, I would have at least gotten married once". It is a judgment that says I'm not well adjusted and must have alot of issues. According to some of them, I'm the following (you fill in the blank, you have heard these before too) - too picky, high maintenance, career driven, too independent, man hater, gay, too masculine, etc. Some actually voice it while I'm trying to eat my sushi roll. It's funny how divorce used to be the social stigma and now being never married is. I guess these guys would prefer the baggage that comes along with divorce like an ex and shared custody with children. Maybe it more relatable because alot of them are in the same boat. When I find out that they are divorce, I don't judge them and say "Why did you break your marriage vow?" I figure they will tell me eventually tell me as something developed beyond a first date.

So, if you are never married, you are not a stigma. You are a wonderful person with alot of great qualities. Don't forget that. And, if that guy doesn't understand that and doesn't appreciate you for who you are, move on.