Where are the single Christian men?

As many single Christian women can attest, it can be hard to find decent single Christian men to date. I thought it was an issue for women of a certain age. But, it sounds like it's hitting the 20 and 30 somethings too. These men lack initative. To be bold and ask a girl out, then following up with dating plans. When you meet them online, they put you in a prepetual pen pal state as they send several long email essays with endings like "we should get together, so call me or text me sometime". You go along with the program since he writes the right words like "I believe that God should be the center of communication" and "communication is important to me to express I how feel, good and bad" and "I believe that conversation should happen in person and not over alot of emails". Words that women want to hear cause face it, we all want men who do communicate their feelings well and we don't want to email forever.

But, time goes on. You may have moved off the dating website to texting. You keep texting while waiting for the first date invitation. Still nothing. You realize he is asking the same questions from when you were talking on the dating site. He doesn't remember that he has asked you the same questions before. You play along, giving him the benefit of the doubt that his memory may not be good. Deep down, you wonder if it is because he is chatting with alot of women at once and can't keep all you girls straight. Regardless, no date in sight. You don't want to be mean and bitter but you wonder if he is just a good writer and has no plans to meet in real life. Or that he just likes the female attention.

It also happens when you meet them in singles group or Bible study group. These men who enjoy their singleness and the attention of all the single women in their group since the female to male ratio is higher. They don't have to take initative because alot of women pursue them. I'm starting to think the Christian men who actually take the lead and make things happen are already married.

It's not just Christian men. It appears to be alot of men in general regardless of the reglious affiliation that don't take initative. With articles like The End of Men and Why Men are in Trouble, it is a cultural problem that is getting more exposure. I don't know if alot of boys are being raised to be men of action (outside of video games) and leadership. Or if they are intimidated by the success of women's achievements in education, work, and personal finances. What ever the issue is, I don't know what the cure could be. Only to hope and pray that there are some single men who can rise above it and shine. And, that they ask women out and make it happen.